Step Toward Freedom & Happiness

Susan notes: this short essay from the Daily OM really struck a chord with me. In 2005, I summoned up the courage to step out of a 20-year marriage, which for the most part had been been happy, but clearly no longer was. It was one of the toughest decisions of my life. Since then, I have been through six rollercoaster years that have included moments of deep despair and pure joy, as well as long stretches of both happiness and loneliness. My recommendation to anyone who is considering leaving a long-term relationship is to first try everything possible to make it work. If that fails, and you must go, know that you are stepping into your destiny and you will be okay. Read more about my story and the birth of this website here.

step-forward.jpgWhen attempts at working out issues in a relationship aren't working, it may be time to examine moving on.

One of the hardest decisions we ever make in life is leaving a long-term relationship that just isn't working. When attempts at repairing and working out issues aren't working, it may be time to examine moving on.

We are emotional creatures, and when our heartstrings are tied to those of another, separating from that person can feel like an act of courage.

It is not something most of us will take lightly, and many of us will struggle with our desire to stay in a relationship that is unfulfilling simply in order to avoid that pain.

We may question whether the happiness we seek even exists, and we may wonder if we might be wiser to simply settle where we are, making the best of what we have.

On the one hand, we almost relish the idea that true happiness is not out there so that we can avoid the pain of change. On the other hand, we feel within ourselves a yearning to fulfill our desire for relationships that are vital and healing.

Ultimately, most of us will follow this call, because deep within ourselves we know that we deserve to be happy. We all deserve to be happy, no matter where we find ourselves in this moment, and we are all justified in moving, like plants toward the light, in the direction that leads to our greatest fulfillment.

First, though, we may need to summon the courage to move on from the relationship that appears to be holding us back.

Taking the first steps will be hard, but the happiness we find when we have freed ourselves from a situation that is draining our energy will outshine any hardship we undergo to get there.

Keeping our eyes trained on the horizon, we begin the work of disentangling ourselves from the relationship that no longer fits. Every step brings us closer to a relationship that will work, and the freedom we need to find the happiness we deserve.

Thanks to Daily OM