30 Relationship Tips For Women Who Love Men

Some thoughts to make you smile, perhaps rethink your current choices, and/or prepare for future relationships. Most of these apply equally to BOTH genders...

1) If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.

2) If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay....

3) Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior. Likewise, don't make excuses for your own bad behviour. Take action, make change, and created the life you deseve. This list of 30 Things to Have and to Know Before Age 30 is a great place to start (even at 40, 50 or 60!)

4) Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache. Trust and value your own feminine wisdom.

5) Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that's not meant to be. And don't try to change him either, it just doesn't work. The only person you can change is yourself (These will help: 21 Tips to Promote Personal Well Being). As painful as it may be, sometimes it's better to step out of a bad relationship and step into your own happiness.

6) Slower is better. Some of the greatest love stories of all time took years to develop. Sure,  love at first sight may be romantasized in the movies, but, like Rome, enduring love is not built in a day...

7) Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy. (That means you need to find your own happiness first... And remember: Happiness is a journey, not a destination.)

8) If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve, then heck no, you can't 'be friends.' A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.

9) Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.

10) Don't stay because you think 'it will get better.' You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.

11) The only person you can control in a relationship is you. (See 7 above and 16 below)

12) Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn't take responsibility when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently?

13) Always have your own set of friends separate from his.

14) Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you; if something bothers you, speak up.

15) Be aware that healthy relationships are built on trust, and that trust takes time to develop. It may be unwise to share too much of yourself and about yourself too quickly. (See 6 above)

16) You cannot change anyone else's behavior. Change comes from within. (See 7 above and create a better you with these 10 Rules for Amazing & Brilliant Women)

17) Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are, even if he has more education or a better job. And don't ever make him feel less important than you are either.

18) Do not make him into a quasi-god; he's a man, nothing more, nothing less.

19) Never let a man define who you are. (Be a queen, full of your own power and glory!)

20) Never borrow someone else's man, if he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.

21) A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you. (If you are unsure as to what love looks like, there are 21 wonderful insights to guide you here.)

22) All men are NOT dogs. (But men beware: bad behaviour may land you in the doghouse LOL!)

23) You should not be the one doing all the bending, compromise is a two-way street.

24) You need time to heal between relationships. There's nothing useful about baggage... deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship. Take a look at these 10 Top Tips for Living in Love regardless of your relationship status.

25) You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you. A relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals. Look for someone complementary, not supplementary.

26) Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right.

27) Allow him to miss you sometimes. If a man always know where you are all the time, and you're always readily available to him - he may take you for granted. Remember you have your own life to live; it may not always include him.

28) Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't listen to you and try to meet your needs; keep him in your radar but get to know others.

29) Become a BITCH (Babe In Total Control of Herself).

30) Above all: love yourself first!

Furthermore, I don't need a boyfriend.


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Comments (9)

  • Susan Macaulay

    Susan Macaulay

    17 September 2011 at 09:10 | #

    This article had 439,891 views on the "old" version of Amazing Women Rock.

    When we migrated the site in September 2011, we couldn't migrate the hit count, or the comments. So I copied a few of the more interesting ones and and pasted them here for your reading pleasure:

    "As my mother used to say ' treat women as princeses, cause thats what they realy are princeses' .
    because of our culture in KSA i couldn't use theses tips..
    but the amazing thing was when met a girl on a chatingweb fortunatly' ahe is living near my hometown city smilies/grin.gif & when i used these tips with her wooooow it was surprisingly amazing so ' thank you Saira for being my guidence in this relationship ."
    your friend - hopefully-
    Mushabab Qahtani KSA.

    This goes double for guys. women are not princesses . they are women. They should be treated as princesses idiots. and women should be able to give as well. it's never a one way street regardless of gender. if a woman cannot respect you as a man it is not something that any man wants or needs so don't make this a one-sided crusade against men .none of you would want your sons mistreated either . this world is screwed up because people both men and women do not know how to treat each other well. and articles like these make it seem as if women are never wrong or abusive or stupid or foolish and that's the problem.Women are not some perfect creatures without problems . There standards and lists are insane .most of them are never satisfied . give them the world and it's never enough. you can never do or be enough so it's a bad trap to put yourself in. demand better call her on her bs . because when women are spoiled or men are spoiled it's spells doom for relationships . No , men aren't perfect but if you continue with this women are so right and you fail to look at both sides of the coin. it doesn't get better for anyone it gets worse. too much spoiling and making it all about her will ruin your relationship . As much as they complain they still want a man not a rug which means challenging her appropriately and calling her out when necessary. and don't give her anything and everything she wants . Every great relationship is compromise which means WOMEN must compromise also quit sucking up to them and man up to them.
    you 'll thank yourself for it!" WiseNOTBLIND

    "Dear WiseNOTBLIND,

    I always find it interesting that many men feel material that is supportive of women is somehow anti-men. It's not.

    Relationships that work best are those in which the parties are respectful of themselves as well as each other.

    The sad truth of the matter is that the vast majority of women the world over are socialised to defer to men, and to devalue themselves.

    This list suggest ways in which women can value and respect themselves more. In no way does it imply they should value and respect men less.

    None of us is perfect. Both genders need to make changes to create more harmony.

    It sounds to me like you have had some bad relationship experiences.... What a pity. I wonder what the causes might have been - any ideas?" AmazingSusan

    "Dear, Susan Macauly
    I find it insulting and wrong that you would insinuate that WiseNOTBLIND has had relationship trouble. This material is not really just supportive of women, but is anti-man (especially the links you showed, which are mostly feminist propaganda aimed at men). Everything in this essay could have man switched with women and vis versa and be true. To that end the gender specificness serves no point other then add to an unbalance gender paradigm.

    All this links you have are things that mostly encourage men to devalue themselves. Play nice now I'm a big MRA and have never had a bad relationship." Psychodegu

    "Dear Psychodegu,

    Thanks for your comment. What I said was:

    "It sounds to me like you have had some bad relationship experiences...."

    I don't think that conclusion is out of line, based on the fact that WiseNOTBLIND wrote this:

    "There standards and lists are insane .most of them are never satisfied . give them the world and it's never enough. you can never do or be enough so it's a bad trap to put yourself in. demand better call her on her bs ."

    That statement would to me indicate that perhaps his experiences with women have been somewhat less than satisfactory, although, I could of course be mistaken…

    With respect to your comment that the links are "anti-men," I guess we just have to agree to disagree. And I repeat: I always find it interesting that many men (and some women too), feel material that is supportive of women is somehow anti-men. It's not. That said, I can certainly understand how some people might perceive it to be. I just happen to not agree with them. I am not in any way, shape or form anti-men. In fact, I love men. I was happily married to one for 20 years.

    I'm delighted to know you have never had a bad relationship - you are very fortunate indeed!" AmazingSusan

    "These are excellent tips for women. I will also add - don't ever let a relationship hold you back from accomplishing any of your important life goals. Relationships should expand who you are, not shrink you. Does your partner support you in the goals that are most important to you? Does he encourage you to move forward? Continue growing, even if some of that growth is independent of your relationship. You'll both be thankful in the end." Ali

    Let's see what additional comments we get in the future...


    • mrlover


      08 May 2016 at 15:13 | #

      Love is a great thing especially if the two of you are seriously inlove and respect each other. WHEN YOU LOVE SOMEONE YOU TREAT THEM WELL WITH RESPECT. you give them everything from your heart and you dont expect them to do the same. WHY, because does love. IT is love. Love should be unconditional. However when you find someone who loves you more is when you become lucky. Make sure who ever you love loves you back. By the way great article suzan.


  • Tonya


    20 February 2013 at 06:25 | #

    Check for typos :P


  • Susan


    09 April 2013 at 16:42 | #

    I suggest this video about relationship advices.


  • Susan


    09 April 2013 at 16:48 | #



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    • Susan Macaulay

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      01 May 2015 at 13:43 | #

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